Disaster - Tagged :)
Aria has tagged me!
The tag is “8 qualities I want in a perfect lover!” . Dont have an idea of what I can write about it, but I will try.
During our times, the perfect lover and the perfect husband were supposed to be the same. But I would go out of focus if I start describing how far my husband made a perfect lover. What I expected and what I got is a long story! 30 years of married life has only taught me that both of us cannot be perfect and married life is full of compromises unless we are the challenging types
Coming to the topic, what qualities do I consider most important in the man of your dreams? What kind of person do I think will make a good lover?
1.He should be "caring and kind", not the type ever asking for "car, rings and kind".
2.He should be a good conversationalist and a good listener and more particularly, he should not give a vacant look or a bored look when I talk, and more than that, he should try not to interrupt me when I talk.
3.He should be confident and give a sense of security and a nice feeling that someone exists for me and would be with me forever. Of course, cant expect him to be with me forever coz now and then, he has got to go for work , and earn money for our living.
4.He should be more a friend, than rather expecting me to be a subordinate. A dominating man kills my motivation. At the same time, he should respect my privacy.
5.He should not go on ego trips
6.He should never tell lies or rather hide facts
7.He should be well dressed
8.He should never make derogatory remarks about me among friends and relatives. This turns me off.
To summarise it, as humans we crave for affection, companionship, someone to share our joys and sorrows, someone whom we can relate to, someone to bear witness to our life and care about what happens to us, someone whom we desire and who also desires you. We feel empty when we always give but never get. What we want and expect is mutual. I wish to tag:
The tag is “8 qualities I want in a perfect lover!” . Dont have an idea of what I can write about it, but I will try.
During our times, the perfect lover and the perfect husband were supposed to be the same. But I would go out of focus if I start describing how far my husband made a perfect lover. What I expected and what I got is a long story! 30 years of married life has only taught me that both of us cannot be perfect and married life is full of compromises unless we are the challenging types
Coming to the topic, what qualities do I consider most important in the man of your dreams? What kind of person do I think will make a good lover?
1.He should be "caring and kind", not the type ever asking for "car, rings and kind".
2.He should be a good conversationalist and a good listener and more particularly, he should not give a vacant look or a bored look when I talk, and more than that, he should try not to interrupt me when I talk.
3.He should be confident and give a sense of security and a nice feeling that someone exists for me and would be with me forever. Of course, cant expect him to be with me forever coz now and then, he has got to go for work , and earn money for our living.
4.He should be more a friend, than rather expecting me to be a subordinate. A dominating man kills my motivation. At the same time, he should respect my privacy.
5.He should not go on ego trips
6.He should never tell lies or rather hide facts
7.He should be well dressed
8.He should never make derogatory remarks about me among friends and relatives. This turns me off.
To summarise it, as humans we crave for affection, companionship, someone to share our joys and sorrows, someone whom we can relate to, someone to bear witness to our life and care about what happens to us, someone whom we desire and who also desires you. We feel empty when we always give but never get. What we want and expect is mutual. I wish to tag:
Das, Priyamvada, Plus Ultra, Ardra, Chayalife, Maddy - Rediff, Intel, Ramchi
Update:
1 Thanks to Maddy, Intel , Ramchi and Priyamvada and Chay for accepting the tag. Wonderful work done by you all.
2.Ardra has already been tagged.
3. Plus Ultra (Raj) completed his tag in my comments section. Thanks. :)
13 comments:
30 years of married life..!! So u blogging at 50..??
Catch me if i missed the fine print anywhere...!!
hey shpriya! I've been already tagged :-D- pls go to:
http://ardramaamsandhyakal.blogspot.com/2006/01/ive-been-tagged.html
sood one aunts. want to know how uncle reacted on reading this and hey i called ya aunts :P after 30yrs of married life hahahaha ;)
I u got it rt fella:P. How do u rate him as a good husband?
"A dominating man kills my motivation. At the same time, he should respect my privacy."
This is really a good point ...
Very nice list .. I wish I can edit my own post n include this point ..:D
Glad that- you accepted the tag! :)
Shpriya,
First tag for me :). ayyayyo - vambula maattipEnE! Ok, will give it a try.
" he should try not to interrupt me when I talk."
LOL. I'm so reminded of my dad, who gets mad if someone interrupts him.
Priya.
Shpriya has tagged me to write on, "the quality I want in 8 perfect lovers".
It is this.
Each must learn to co-exist peacefully with the other 7.
Priya,
Ok do I have the copyright to borrow your 8 points!
vi
Nice..list...:-)
looks like some expectations dont chg much over the years:)
Yeah. None of those points can be done without. Valid ones. And ahem.. what's with the title by the way? :p Disaster, eh? lol
L, Ardra, Aria, Anushka, Raj Individualist, Priyamvada, Vi and Gi, thks for ur comments.
Shpriya,
Tag finally satisfied. Take a look ;)
Priya.
If it was someone else who tagged me , i would have given some reason not to do it.But since its you,i knew i had to do it.I did my bit with as much seriousness i could conjure :) It doesn't come close to the honesty in your list but then i tried as much as a man can :)
Finally PS...did it!! Sorry about being soooo late!! :-D
http://chays.blogspot.com/2006/02/perfect-lover.html
Love,
chay
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